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[...The first step to be the best husband is nothing like changing yourself it is like grooming yourself. Several people have a fear of being a bad husband who fails to meet all the responsibilities and happiness in relationship...]…

BUT, as you have accurately pointed out – PEOPLE ARE HURTING BECAUSE OF HIM! And HE has NO REGARD FOR THEM!! SHAMEFUL!!

Obama-Biden '08!!! TRUST

BUT, as you have accurately pointed out – PEOPLE ARE HURTING BECAUSE OF HIM! And HE has NO REGARD FOR THEM!! SHAMEFUL!!

Obama-Biden '08!!! TRUST

OLYMPIC GOLD!! How do you give that UP????? The HIGHEST MEDAL IN THE WORLD???? Annnnnnnd, a BLACK WOMAN GOT IT!! And -GAVE IT UP!!!

She knew that this could happen B4 she left the blocks!! ARRRGGGGG!!

My advice to my children – THINK about YOUR “FAMILY!” Then act!!

This was drummed into my head by my parents. I try – even though I don't always do it right!

Whew!! **shaking my head** Deep Breaths!!

Obama-Biden '08!!! TRUST

Gotta bounce! :>)

As in: WHEN WE ALL GET TO ———HEAVEN? :>) Closest I could find to address a gathering. SORRY! :>(

Obama-Biden '08!!! TRUST

Many of us think he didn't get ENOUGH jail time for his stunts. And from all accounts, his ex-lover, also ex-Chief of Staff, is going to get more time in jail than Kwame, and while that teaches her a lesson to never fool around with a married man – what she's facing is far worse than what Kwame got, and rumor has it, he's planning to throw HER under the bus to save his own ass.

Marion Jones was a major disappointment – and she was properly disciplined – that has to hurt having all five of the gold medals you won at the Olympics SNATCHED BACK.

All that money Michael Vick had didn't hide his foolishness. He couldn't engage in other pursuits other than dog-fighting? He's paying, too – what money that hasn't paid for his lawyers, is paying off everyone else. He'll be broke and can't resume playing in the NFL until they reinstate him and that's not guaranteed.

If anything, Blacks have to be more circumspect about their success while they have it, because too many people want to see them lose it and fall back to the bottom where the rest are. The Crab-in-barrel mentality, and it's still going strong.

You apparently think that the “punishment” for black folks should be MUCH, MUCH harsher than for our white counterparts. You must believe that the sentencing for Crack vs. Powder cocaine should remain imbalanced. Black folks MUST deserve to serve more time in jail due to the color of our skin and our inherent nature…

Did you ever think that maybe YOU are not ready for Barack Obama? Maybe YOU are not ready for true equality and the equitable treatment of all citizens without regard to their race? Maybe you are NOT ready for a post-modern, post-racial America?

Politics & personality: Psychologists weigh in on behaviors of the former Detroit mayor

Kimberly Hayes Taylor / The Detroit News

Kwame Kilpatrick seemed to have the world in his hands when he became Detroit 's mayor in 2002.

Young, handsome and charming, he possessed an infectious smile and a magnetic personality that brought new energy to the city. He successfully led a Detroit renaissance, so people often excused his jet-setting lifestyle of popping champagne bottles, lavish spa visits and vacationing in grand Las Vegas hotel suites on the city's dime.

Like dominoes, Kilpatrick's world started tumbling down in January when text messages revealed an affair with Chief of Staff Christine Beatty, indicating he lied on the witness stand in 2007 during two fired police officers' civil trial. By the time he pleaded guilty Sept. 4 to two obstruction of justice counts, many of his staunch supporters had turned against him.

On Tuesday, Kilpatrick will head to jail for four months, and we asked three mental health experts to ponder Kilpatrick's future. While they've never professionally evaluated the former mayor, the psychologists comment on his self-destructive behavior while in office.

Pauline Furman, a psychologist and marital therapist in Southfield , says she believes Kilpatrick has a narcissistic personality disorder and says he fits each description of that personality, according to the Diagnostic Statistical Manual, the therapists' bible.

“He exaggerates his own importance and needs constant attention and positive reinforcement from others,” Furman says. “He overreacts to criticism, becoming angry or humiliated. He's extremely self-absorbed, intolerant of others' perspectives. He uses others to reach his personal goals and take advantage of others. He's arrogant and behaves in a haughty manner.”

Kilpatrick has shown signs of depression for months, says veteran forensic psychologist Patricia Wallace, who also practices in Southfield . He also displays what she says are narcissistic and histrionic personality traits.

“We saw it early on,” Wallace says, “especially when he gave his State of the City address (where an outraged Kilpatrick used the n-word and angrily called for the media to stop its 'lynch-mob mentality'). The depressive tendencies were blatant. He was able to go through with his prepared speech very carefully, almost flawlessly until his anger and rage evolved at the end of the speech.”

Furman says when Kilpatrick pleaded guilty, he also displayed signs of narcissism.

“If you remember when he was reading his piece in the courtroom where he had to admit his guilt, it was as if he was just reading any piece of paper,” Furman says. “He looked at his attorney and said, 'Read this?' He wasn't confused. It was just that he wasn't connected to the experience of being in that courtroom and admitting that he was wrong, and he only read the words.”

People with narcissistic/histrionic personalities also tend to blame others for their actions.

Kilpatrick displayed this tendency later that day by orchestrating a private news conference to deliver his departure speech. Family and friends loudly cheered him. His wife, Carlita Kilpatrick, seemed almost robotic as she stood up, slowly walked to his side and, as if on cue, kissed him on the cheek and waited to kiss him a second time. At the end of his speech, highlighting a list of his achievements while mayor, he blamed Gov. Jennifer Granholm for his troubles, intimating if Granholm had not held removal hearings, he would have remained mayor.

“That is a prime narcissist,” says Michelle Leno, who practices in Birmingham . “Jennifer Granholm wasn't preoccupied with him. She was only doing her job. I don't think he planned to say those things at the end; he couldn't resist the urge.

“That's what got him into a lot of trouble, his inability to resist urges. He waits until the end of the speech, and something tells him, 'Go ahead and say it. This is your time.'”

He also told the audience, “Ya'll done set me up for a comeback,” and scolded people who “tried to break up his marriage,” announcing his marriage was stronger than ever.

Histrionics and narcissists have trouble listening to others' advice. That's why the three psychologists say it's difficult, if not impossible, to treat the personality disorder.

“Working with a narcissistic personality is a challenge,” she says, “because they think, 'You are not good enough to treat me.' They view treatment as unnecessary, and personality traits are difficult to change.”

Leno says, “I wouldn't try to treat the personality disorder; I would try to have them modify the symptoms. For example, if this person has trouble keeping a job, I would help them work on the characteristics that are making it difficult for them to maintain employment.”

What's next for Kilpatrick after he is freed from jail and moves past his legal issues?

“People like that either survive and make it — they push through or they end up down and out,” Leno says. “He's not an in-between person. He's all or nothing.”

Wallace says she expects Kilpatrick to bounce back as a highly paid motivational speaker or a mega-church minister.

“They all require an audience — money and an audience.”

Annnnnd, here's his song:

JAILHOUSE ROCK!

Hope he ENJOYS -now!!