I have personally met (and dated) some brothers who have been converted… or converted back? lol!

My immediate past ex had only ever dated white girls before he met me. Of course, that had something to do with the fact that he lived in Norway.

And he expressed some of those same views to me when we were discussing the whole ‘black men-white women’ thing. He observed that especially when out clubbing, black women looked unapproachable while white women would smile and be friendly.

But by the same token, he came to appreciate the difference in going out with a black woman – the freedom to speak his mind in a way he could not with white women, the shared views and experiences and humour that would have been lost otherwise and the feeling that I had his back because I understood better what he was going through.

Some of them do see the light. I hope Lynch does eventually.

Oh, another one of these. Look, fools we will always have with us.

And truth be told, some of what he is saying is …well not quite truth but an accurate reflection of how some misguided brothers feel.

And that’s a damn shame for they are short-sighted. They see only ‘attitude’ but do not appreciate that it usually comes with the incredible and unique strength of black women. They will talk about how black women do not appreciate their struggle but they show no appreciation or understanding of the equal struggle black women go through.

On the whole, white women probably do have less ‘attitude’ than black women. They also tend to have less financial and social burdens, are more affirmed as the ’standard’ by which all others are judged and are more likely to be raised in two-parent families where they get cues on how men and women interact lovingly.

It is what it is.

But fools like this Matthew Lynch want to act as if black women’s behaviour happens in a vacuum. As if there is nothing impacting it, shaping it, creating it.

True brothers understand all this and they appreciate the strength we have regardless. I have all the time in the world for black men like this.

Black males like Lynch – why bother?

Seriously can we bring back Dave Chappelle so we can get this Racial Draft going…white by_tches can have them…give me Matthew Mcconaughey.

If we’re trading brothas, we need to get multiple players in exchange for one brotha.

This self-hating brotha is worth Matthew McConnahey, plus George Clooney thrown in as the Player to Be Named Later, and reserve Jake Gyllenhaal as a future draft pick.

The ‘Angry’ Black Woman is really the ‘Depressed’ Black Woman. I read an article about it years ago, really blew my mind. I can’t find it. Instead,

Validity: Challenges Recognizing Depression

I think many young black women who are depressed get stereotyped as angry, aggressive and violent. If a physician does not fully understand how culture and race play a role in how you express yourself and your feelings, illnesses such as depression may be undermined or overlooked. It is very difficult for black females to find physicians who can relate to them.

“A western doctor takes the visual signs of his patients seriously. If they have a broken arm, he acknowledges their pain. If they have fever, then he looks for other symptoms and makes a diagnosis and treats the problem. When I came into my doctor’s office, I gave him my symptoms. They were not taken seriously because they were not physical.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsGbfPhtCZs

this is the portrayal we fight against every day…

But anyone who’s ever been to any of the interracial dating sites exclusively catering to black men-white women knows what he’s writing is exactly what goes through the mind of those men who hate black women.

Likewise, at interracial dating sites exclusively catering to black women-white menthere’s a similar list as to why black women don’t date black men, and it’s just as ugly.

As you can see from my earlier post, I was really trying to cut him some slack–just in case I wasn’t understanding him.

Yeah, I understand him just fine.

PERIOD. The End.

And frankly, if he has that many problems with sistas, I’m glad some white chick will take him off our hands, because for that list, he needs a can of whip-ass broken out on him.

He can kiss my paper-sack colored ass and get on the fast track to hell.

Those are two different stories. I don’t think that is what Craig means. One story was informing and the other paranoia. We need to know that Ashanti and her team are idiots. We don’t need to listen to some idiot talking about whether or not we are really marrying each other. Get the difference.

I agree, no sweat off my back. I could really care less. As you, melissa and BrownsugaQT86 pointed out, the medis that is out there is about division. Falling into it will only create the division. We need to rise above it.

Melissa You said,

” This so called Ph.D surveyed 5 men-really let me take a guess.
Quincy Jones, Terence Howard, Polow da Don, O.J. Simpson and Wesley Snipes. Okay, nothing to see here.”

Wow…lol, I agree however with the overall assessment that Mr.Ph.D’s finding is not universal.

I also agree with you in regards to Sister 2 Sister and Honey, we as people need to stop perpetuating this. It will only create tension when we need love.

However Matthew Lynch deserves a reward for producing this. He is a perpetuator!

Something tells me that this isnt the overall sentiment of MOST blackmen, jut the rantings of a small select group..

It’s a shame how we treat this like a sport.

Ask a black person to make his or her community better and you hear crickets. . .

But ask that same black man or woman to dog a brotha or sista and you’ll get about 5 misogynistic rap songs, 3 male-bashing books and 2 hollywood movies where the only salvation to the black person’s futile love-life is a white man or white woman.

We’ve got black folk who are scared to say “boo” to white people. But give them a chance to hate their own and you can’t get them to shut up.

Listen, I’ve got no problem with interracial dating. Love knows no color. But I’m not blind to the high degree of self-loathing that rears it’s ugly head whenever the words “black” and “relationship” land in the same sentence.

I don’t know what it is, but some black folk find a little white lovin’ and instantaneously get a Phd in “black men/women ain’t sh*tology.” Very sad. We’ve got a lot of growing up to do.

I’m with those of you who say it’s about personal relationships. Stop punishing all brothas and sistas for the sins of your ex.

As for this brotha’s “list”. . . real black men know that a strong black woman is a GIFT not a curse.

My goodness. . . imagine how powerful it could be if we used half as much energy supporting positive images of black love as we do regurgitating every negative stereotype of black men and women that we can find.

2 days ago Ashanti was nominated for the Flava Flav award for her Crime Network on this blog. Do you wish that shouldnt have appeared either?