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It may provide further fuel for thought. It basically outlines psychological profiles/approaches to being a black, single woman. It’s written in a very conversational style.

Many Brotha’s have drama stories to say about sista’s.

Sista’s call brothers dogs.

Brotha’s call sista’s loud mouth drama Queens.

Brotha’s say they date white women because of less drama, Sista’s date white men because they feel more secure, wanted and powerful.

Guess what, I hear yah, sista’s who are moving closer and closer to the white men that cause black men pain.

You go Girl! Make it happen.

You don’t have to be PC for no one. your mama, your daddy, your girl friends, brotha’s – nobody. It’s a new century, a new black woman a new white man. Let freedom ring!

No more round robin for me, no more discussion on this issue. This issue is not a black family issue.

Who you sleep with black women is not a black man’s business.

It’s your’s and your’s alone.

NOT – I was just venting. This is a black family conversation – that must be continued.

Rikyrah hit the nail on the head about being single, Black and educated females looking for the brothas. In my case, I’m in my forties, an educated, single sista with a career that pays well, and when I was in my thirties, my police officer boyfriend threw me over for a crackhead. He was an educated, military vet brother who went to work for Oakland PD.

It’s crap like that that forces sistas to look elsewhere. My attitude now is I will love whomever God sends me and the package he comes in, cause people are going to choose who they want, but it must always be for the right reasons, and not PC ones.

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Date whoever you want to. You don’t have to offer an explanation to anyone.It isn’t any of my business, but please don’t throw around blanket generalizations that black women are single by choice or because we are too picky or because we all are ravenous golddiggers who wont be happy with a house with less than 5 bathrooms.

That says less about black women than it does about the women YOU approach. If a woman is demanding 5 bathrooms, I am sure that there is a lot more wrong with her than that unreasonable demand. There are women of all races who have a certain image in their minds about what kind of lifestyle they want a man to provide for them, but there are probably a lot more who are willing to work together to get the 5 bedrooms. And if you aren;t a 5 bedroom kind of guy, then move on.

For most of MY friends and that is all I am qualified to speak about, already have houses. besides a house with 5 bathrooms probably has a helluva utility bill, not to mention property taxes.

Why do we ALWAYS get into this business of arguing the exception as the rule. Just because you think the earth is flat because you’ve never sailed more than ten feet from the shore, doesn’t mean its so.

At the end of the day. People have the right to love whoever they want to love and if the people you want to love are not loving you back then maybe you need to reevaluate where you are looking.

And yes, that means that black women may have to broaden their dating/marriage pool. Why is that any of our business?

But what I would suggest that both of your dating experiences are limited. As such, the best you can say with any degree of accuracy is that the women YOU were interested in, or pursued, were interested in a man with money. I’ve only dated black women, and of the women I’ve dated, only ONE fits that category.

As soon as we jump into the “all American women are X” pool, we lose perspective, we demonize people who shouldn’t be demonized, and we don’t get the story right.

You have hit the nail right on the head. I was dancing around that snake pit in my earlier post….afraid to step in.

American culture is all about financial status. It is at the heart of everything…including m/f relationships.

But I can’t believe that you had all that as an attorney…and you were still alone. I’m still struggling everyday….chasing after what you had so that I CAN start dating. I tried dating once before…and hated it…(because I was limited financially). I was a late starter when it came to dating (started when I hit 30). But I found that I really couldn’t compete and date the women that I wanted, because in the U.S., dating is basically a status thing….at least initially.
You rarely find a woman that isn’t fixated on money.

Once I attain those material things… I will still hate dating… but at least I will have a respectable income, which allows a guy to have some dating freedom…and confidence. It’s a shame though that I have put dating on hold until I reach a certain financial status.

Women (most, not all) of all races are fixated on it…. And as a Black man… you really can’t date who you want unless you have a very nice income. The dating pool is very limited for us as well. Plus, I find African American women hard to date (although there are exceptions). And as a Black man, it is hard to date white, or asian women…at least where I live.

The only way that non-Black women will give you a shot is if you are a CEO, Attorney, are from a wealthy family, or you are a pro Sports figure or entertainer. Otherwise it’s pretty tough. The Black male image has been battered in this country.

So it is not just Black women who can’t find matches. It’s so bad that I decided to basically quit. I am concentrating 110% on my professional and personal development instead… hoping that in a few years I can try it again…under better circumstances.
It’s sort of a blessing in disguise though… because being single has allowed me to go to school… etc… without all the hassles, headaches and the typical melodrama of a relationship taking up my time. I think that will pay off later on.

And that Rubiks Cube is hell.